If you’re going through a separation or divorce, you might need a mediator to help guide you through to a resolution where everyone is left satisfied. Even if the separation is mutual and amicable, it can be overwhelming when trying to work out the complexities of finances, property, and child arrangements. Meditation can help!
What is meditation?
Mediation involves a neutral third party, such as a family lawyer or qualified Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP), guiding you through the separation or divorce process. A mediator ensures fairness and justice while adhering to family law principles. Mediation is not a single meeting but rather a series of preparatory and communicative sessions aimed at achieving the best outcomes. Throughout this process, the mediator collaborates with both parties, navigating legalities and fostering compromise to resolve issues satisfactorily for everyone involved.
6 steps to prepare for your mediation
Your family lawyer will guide you through the process, but being well-prepared can help ensure the best outcome. Here are six steps to prepare for your mediation:
1. Seek early legal advice:
Book an appointment with a family lawyer before you embark on mediation for advice in relation to your desired outcome. Find a solutions-focussed family lawyer who is equipped to provide strategic advice tailored to your circumstances.
2. Define the conflict:
Clearly understand why you need a mediator. Identify the core reason for your dispute and what specific assistance you require. Reflect on the main issues and concerns and articulate them clearly. This preparation will help you convey your needs effectively, ensuring that the mediation process addresses the critical points and runs more smoothly.
3. Gather documents:
Collect all relevant documents related to the conflict, such as contracts, policies, and financial records. Organise these materials systematically for easy access during discussions. Comprehensive documentation supports your case, provides necessary evidence, and ensures that all relevant information is considered during mediation, leading to more informed and fair decisions.
4. List your questions:
Mediation can be overwhelming, especially when addressing issues directly with your spouse. Write down all your questions beforehand to ensure you address all your concerns during the meeting. This preparation prevents important questions from slipping your mind in the moment and helps you stay focused. Consider categorising your questions to cover all aspects of the conflict comprehensively.
5. Develop strategies:
Prepare a solid plan for the mediation. Be ready to explain clearly why your proposal is fair and consider potential counterarguments from the other party. Think through various scenarios and responses and develop persuasive points to support your case. Anticipating where the conversation might lead and preparing accordingly can help you present a strong, well-considered argument and increase the likelihood of reaching a satisfactory resolution.
6. Choose the right mediator:
Select a mediator with relevant experience and someone you can trust. Research their background in mediation, ensure they communicate well, and genuinely listen to you. Look for reviews or testimonials from previous clients to gauge their effectiveness and approach. Start with a consultation call to determine if they are the right fit. A skilled mediator who understands your specific situation can make a significant difference in facilitating productive discussions and achieving a fair outcome.
Guiding you to a better future
Eliza Legal is a leading family law firm based on the Mornington Peninsula, dedicated to providing tailored legal services with compassion and integrity. Our lawyers at Eliza Legal are proponents of mediation and are highly skilled at preparing for and representing clients at mediation. Contact us today and let’s see if we’re a good fit! We’d love to help you.
